Pretty Phenomenal

 

I’m BACK!!! And like never before. And all I can say is Glory be to God! At an early age I was introduced to the “Greek Life.” Naturally I would get pressure on where my interest should be. But if you know me I never followed the crowd and I promised myself that when the time came, I would do my own research and choose an organization that I felt was right for me and NO ONE ELSE. Unbeknownst to me, an opportunity of a lifetime that I dreamed of experiencing in college would be taken from me and I would never get a truthful answer as to why!  I’ve heard people say if you want to make God laugh then tell Him your plans. And often times we get caught into making our own arrangements to get our plans off the ground. Rather than being still and getting discernment from Him. Well this was definitely one of those times. Why was I overlooked? Why would my friends (at the time), who were members betray me and embarrass me? What qualities did I not possess to be chosen to become a member into this sisterhood. For the life of me I couldn’t understand what was going on and I had so many questions that would never be answered. But one thing I did know was that God is always faithful and when you make what’s important to Him important to you, then He will make what’s important to you important to Him, but in His timing and not mine. This season in my life was a reality check because I was always taught that if I work hard I could do and be anything I wanted to be. But the reality is no matter how hard you work, those rules do not apply, qualify or guarantee you membership into a sorority or fraternity. And that was a huge disappointment. 

So what now? Do I allow this dream to be just that, give up and watch from the sidelines? Well  that wasn’t an option because I’ve never been a quitter.  I thought about calling all of my friends that had influence and get them to help me and fix this nightmare? But i knew my best option was to stand firm on His word and promise that He’s able to do exceedingly abundantly and above all I could ever think of imagine. So here I am still standing on His promises and 16 years later, He reminded me in Genesis 50:20 “As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good in order to bring about this present outcome. You see i didn’t have to do anything but trust Him. I never had to attack or seek revenge against those that wronged me because He already told me in Psalms 110:1 “Sit in the place of honor at my right hand until I humble your enemies, making them a footstool under your feet.” And He did just that. I said all of that to say what He has for you is for YOU. No ONE can change His plans or interrupt His promises. Remain steadfast because He is always faithful and just to complete it. 

                               xoxo

                  RELENTLESSLY ME,

                           -Shelley-

Do you really know who you are?

Throughout life’s journey, there is no doubt that we go through obstacles and challenges. Some, we know exactly how to tackle and other times we find ourselves stuck! But are we really stuck because we don’t know what to do? Or are we stagnant because we don’t want to be pushed out of our comfort zone and be introduced to change? In this book, “Who Moved My Cheese (by Dr. Spencer Johnson),” there are four main characters, Sniff, Scurry, Hem and Haw. These characters represent the simple and complex challenges we face daily. But do you know who you really are or which character you relate to most? Continue reading

How we met (his version)

I’ve always loved writing but starting has always been the toughest part. So, now that that’s out of the way. The first time that Shelley caught my eye I wanted her to be special to me and I wanted to be special to her. The first time I saw her, Shelley was being her fun, silly, playful self. She was a bridesmaid in our friends wedding. I remember thinking that she was effortlessly stunning but possessed a modest inner beauty. I thought about what I’d say when I went to talk to her. I watched her the whole wedding and had my first words ready for the reception. 

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Pantone’s Color of the Year 2018

Have you ever noticed at the beginning of the year, not only do people set new goals and resolutions, but an old random color starts to surface everywhere you look and suddenly becomes so popular! And you’re looking around like “what’s so special about this color?” Why is it that “all of a sudden,” this old color that has been around for decades is so cool now. Well there’s this really cool place in New Jersey called the Pantone Color Institute. And twice a year the Pantone Institute hosts a secret meeting of representatives from various nation’s color standard groups in a European capital.  During this two day meeting, chosen representatives are allowed to present and then collectively everyone debates to choose a color for the following year! So, “what’s the color of the year this time,” you may ask? Continue reading

How we met (my version)

On Friday, May 10, 2013, I had the pleasure of sharing in two of my closest friends Greg & Kelley’s wedding as a bridesmaid. Not anticipating meeting anyone at the wedding, and assuming that I pretty much thought I knew all of Greg friends, there’s always hope, right? WRONG! Needless to say, some of our other friends and I began to have a great time at the reception dancing the night away without a care in the room. But towards the end of the night, when everyone was leaving and saying their goodbyes, I saw two tall guys by the dance floor hugging my friends (the bride and groom) goodbye. How I missed them throughout the entire reception, I don’t know, but I remember telling Ashley, “hey he’s handsome”, but kind of just left it at that! Continue reading

My WHY

The bigger the problem, the bigger the opportunity! As an entrepreneur, the assumption is that “we” solve problems. And often times, it’s other people’s problems that we’re solving. But what about our own problems?! Why do we do what we do?

Recently, I had an opportunity to take an entrepreneur class to help the development of my business. One of the initial questions asked was “what is important to you about becoming a successful entrepreneur?” I immediately began to write down the popular norms like providing financial freedom for my family and creating generational wealth for my husband and my future children. And while those things and more are very valid reasons, I realized that those weren’t my true reasons why. And as bad as it may sound, the truth was, I honestly didn’t know why I chose this field and career path for myself. It’s definitely not what I chose as my primary major in college. I began thinking to myself “oh boy! What have I gotten myself in to.” Continue reading